Days after revealing difficulties with her current pregnancy,Hilaria Baldwinsays she still doesn’t yet know whether she’s having a miscarriage but is “pretty sure” her pregnancy won’t last.
The mother of four sat down with Savannah Guthrie and Hoda Kotb on Tuesday’sTodayfor an emotionalinterview about her potential miscarriage, news of whichshe first revealed ina candid Instagram post this past Thursday.
“I’m feeling okay,” said Baldwin — who shares daughterCarmen Gabriela, 5½, plus sonsRomeo Alejandro David, 10 months,Leonardo Ángel Charles, 2½, andRafael Thomas, 3½, with husbandAlec. “This is something that has not been easy. … I think I’m going to have the answer one way or the other. I’m pretty sure this is not going to stick.”
Baldwin recalled that she first learned about her pregnancy complications during a regular check-in appointment. She realized something was wrong when her technician got quiet.
“The silence makes you very nervous,” Baldwin said. “And this technician, she just kept being quiet and kept ontrying to find the heartbeat. She could find it and she’d listen to it and hear it, [but it was] very spread apart and slow. She said to me that the heartbeat is not very fast. Then I went in again, and in the life of an embryo — days, a week — it’s completely different. And it was the same.”
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Coming forward with the truth about her health struggles as they were happening was a complicated decision for the fitness guru, 35. She told Guthrie and Kotb that she ultimately decided to be open about it because hiding the news would have been harder than just being honest.
“It’s a lot to ask of me but for me personally, it’d beharder for me to do it silently,” Baldwin confessed. “Say I was doing a fitness segment. I would be wearing something different so you could not see that my belly is a little bit bigger than it typically is. I would pretend I wasn’t nauseous and I would pretend I wasn’t tired — and that’s really tiring. Then you put the emotion on top of that of, ‘Hey this isn’t going in a great direction,’ and that’s a lot to bear.”
“Beingopen for me just allowed meto relieve it a little bit,” she added. “Secrets are only scary when they’re secrets. Once you let the secret out, it’s not so scary anymore.”
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Helping her feel brave enough to come forward was the knowledge that many other women suffer from the same problems.
“I wanted to come out and speak about it because it’ssomething that so many people deal with,” Baldwin said onToday.“As women, we’re trained to deal with it silently. You’re definitely not supposed to say something until 12 weeks. And some of that is because people are superstitious or that’s how they feel they’re going to be stronger. And a lot of it, for other people, is fear. And I don’t think that we have to live with such fear.”
Since doing so, Baldwin has said that she’sbeen met with a sea of support. “Being able to be open and speak to other people … I got great advice,” she said. “This is something I’ve never gone through before. Women came on my Instagram or stopped me on the street and gave me such wisdom. This isn’t about me. This is about all of us.”
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The experience has also taught the yoga instructor that women need to stop blaming themselves for their struggles, as well as reminded her that being a parent means taking the good and the bad.
“We just need to be a little bit more forgiving of ourselves and not just perfectionists because it’s hard enough as it is,” she said. “When we agree to be parents, wehave to accept the good or the bad. Whether our child gets a scraped knee or gets their heart broken when they’re a teenager or gets really sick or, God forbid, something worse. We have to realize it’s not just all diapers and blankets and hair bows. We have to open our hearts and realize that there are bad moments too.”
Last Thursday, Baldwin firstrevealed she was “most likely experiencing a miscarriage”on Instagram, confessing that the “chances are very, very small that this is a viable pregnancy.” Her announcement was sharedalong with a mirror selfiethat showed her hand placed on her stomach.
“I want to share with you that I am most likely experiencing a miscarriage,” she wrote. “I always promised myself thatif I were to get pregnant again, I would share the news with you guys pretty early, even if that means suffering a public loss. I have always been so open with you all about my family, fitness, pregnancies … and I don’t want to keep this from you, just because it isn’t as positive and shiny as the rest.”
The next day, she sharedanother emotional post, assuring her fans and followers that she has “perspective to understand sadness and loss in the grand scheme of things.”
“Emotionally I am processing it all,” Baldwin wrote on Instagram. “Being able to be open with you has been extremely healing. I was very nervous to share, and am so relieved that it was received with such love.”
Thanking her followers for “making my world a brighter place,” Baldwin said, “I don’t know about you, but I find it extremely comfortingto know that I am not aloneon this difficult journey.”
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Also on Tuesday, Baldwin spoke out about her potential miscarriage in an essay forGlamour.
She revealed that she felt “so, so, so sad” the day after her ultrasound. “Emotionally I’m still healing; physically the process is not over,” she added. “Miscarriages can take days or even weeks, and I’ll have more checkups ahead. But my hope is that, whether it’s a miscarriage or some other trial in life, women realize thatthey don’t have to behave a certain way, or share a certain way, or hide a certain way.”
“In the midst of my miscarriage, I am reminded how lucky I am, not just because I have four healthy babies, but because so many women reached out with overwhelming positivity,” added Baldwin. “This week, my 5-year-old daughter Carmen said to me out of the blue, ‘Mommy, do you know there are more good people in the world than bad people?’ She’s right. Whenever you can see people withall different experiences and walks of lifecoming together about an issue, supporting and sharing, that is beautiful.”
source: people.com
